What No One Tells You About Divorce

There are a few things that nobody wants to tell you when you’re going through a divorce, but there are many things people will say…
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I Left a 10-Year Abusive Marriage, Here’s What Happened

We were strolling along Gran Via in Madrid, holding hands.  The sunlight was more beautiful than the usual stunning light in the Mediterranean city.  Instead of walking, the feeling was of floating next to him as we approached the train station.

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Getting To Know You Before Love

Slow. The word itself glows if you give your eyes a moment with it — not exactly the most typed-out word in my emails and text conversations.  Frustration is often my initial reaction when I text or type the word “slow,” usually coupled with grumbling disappointment for something being “too slow.”  It’s as if my secret mantra is, “if it takes a while, then it is not worth my time or my energy.”

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What Instagram Teaches Us About Idealized Love

There was once a distinct difference between the act of consuming art and the act of living everyday life. Of course, creatives who have lived their entire lives as if life itself is a canvas would disagree, but largely, if one wanted to consume depictions of romantic love, for example, there was a deliberate act in walking into a gallery, picking up a poetry book, reading a romance novel or watching a film. The predisposition was clear from the outset: what you are about to consume is a dramatized, romanticized, poeticized depiction of love, intended to be enjoyed as a form of entertainment, not replicated or sought after.

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Wanted: True Love and Other Imposters

We all want it, don’t we? That other half. That plus one. That counterpart through all of life’s storms. We want to be seen, known, valued. We want to be partners with someone so that burdens are lessened and joys are heightened. Through all of the storybooks and rom-coms, big dreams and small cries of heart, true love beckons.

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