Heart to Hart on Being Being Beautiful

The poet Nayyirah Waheed once wrote, “My mother was my first country, the first place I ever lived.” When mother is present, all becomes possible — a sentiment shared by Ericka Hart as she retold the story of her ascent beyond bravery to a place where the full human experience becomes nonvocal and omnipotent. (more…)

Lessons We’ve Learned: Prism Creative Group Biz Tips

Being an entrepreneur isn’t easy, but having a vision you’re passionate about is enough to keep you going through the tough times and the wins. We don’t all have someone to help us through it, especially the times we’re totally unprepared for, but as a means to help anyone out there looking to turn a dream into an impactful reality, here are some lessons we’ve learned after almost a decade of going solo:

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Don’t pay the consequences forever

When I think about all the times I’ve felt stuck in any particular area of life, it’s usually been a result of some emotional cocktail with central ingredients such as fear of failing (again), a fatigued disdain toward starting over, angst about what people will think, worried conclusions as to whether or not this is what God would have for me, but if I can narrow it down to one common denominator, it’s my suspicion that I’ve somehow screwed up the chances given and perhaps it’s time to pay the consequences. (forever)

When I think about David (You know David + Goliath?) and all the ways and times he screwed up, I’m slightly comforted… Remember that time he impregnated Bathsheba? Another guy’s wife? (Uriah, amazing + faithful guy, by the way) We know he paid the consequence when his son to Bathsheba died. (cringe!)

BUT HERE’S THE KICK… HE DIDN’T :

-Drown in his sorrow to the point of paralysis

-Disqualify himself from future calls, projects and assignments

-Get angry and blame others or God for his consequence

-Let his mistake define him for the rest of his life

Now we might see his mistake as a BIG KAHUNA, but we can easily turn the page and see all the awe-inspiring things he later carried out in complete confidence and reliance on God. He not only trusted God’s company, provision and wisdom in the almost enviable accomplishments under his belt, but he also let God DEFINE who he was and what he was capable of.

So now I want to ask you, how do you categorize your mistakes, setbacks or failures? Are they simply weird turns that reveal the right direction, or are they dead ends that conclude your journey, minimize your impact and cheat your identity?

I know I’m choosing grace during the detour, strength in the setback, and freedom in the new beginning. (not to mention excitement like every time I secretly eat baby food)

How about you?

-Hugette

Saying you’re enough, isn’t always enough.

I don’t know if it’s just me, but the message of “enoughness” seems to be everywhere these days. It’s definitely a refreshing stance considering most media and marketing campaigns have led us to believe otherwise for years, but somehow, this message still feels like a cotton candy anchor. (more…)

When your days AND life seem too short.

I probably don’t need to ask you if you ever feel like you don’t have enough hours in the day, because based on most of my friendship encounters with this question, I typically get a huge eye roll with a simultaneous, “GIRRRRLLL, SERIOUSLY!”

But there’s something interesting about this modern day dynamic where we have more connection gadgets and domestic miracle machines to help us “get it all done,” than ever, yet we have reportedly the most overwhelmed, unsatisfied, depressed, anxious and disconnected people in the history of time.

I embarrassingly cringe when I think about all the ways and times I’ve been “too busy,” seeking the very thing I’ve been too busy to notice; a sense of resolute peace that’s not contingent on sunny skies and checked off to-do lists, but is rather present in the cold storms and endless “putting out fires” agenda.

Truth is, life will never be perfectly quiet circumstantially, but it can be spiritually. More often than not, what we end up chasing after in our effort to seek God ‘s peace is the removal of chaos so we no longer have to actually depend on the peace pillar Himself.

In doing so, however, rather than removing the noise, we add more tasks to get distracted, do anything we can to catch up and “feel” less overwhelmed, we depend on dopamine triggers to arouse our sense of value, we acquire more physical things to fill emotional voids and we consume information more than we create meaning.

So perhaps there’s another kind of to-do list that might be less deflating and seemingly bottomless. A list along these lines:

Scan for storms + welcome them as an invitation to a God-show-off-party.

Because our design is for connection and dependence on God, difficulties and valleys are the VERY places you’re going to see God’s hand the clearest because they’re the only places where you reach the limited and finite parts of your ability.

Create margins for stillness even when it seems impossible + counterproductive.

God’s economy works differently than ours. When you have that much more to do, seek God THAT much more and see how He redeems your time. It’s usually in those nooks of stillness that supernatural creativity, direction, insight and genius get downloaded onto us, contrary to the windows of pressured “productivity” we enforce on ourselves.

Before you put your feet on the ground, check your agenda or start your workday, let God steer the priorities.

As great as we are at creating vision boards, passion planners and daily agendas, make a little room to let God change the blueprints if need be, and in meditative prayer ask Him to reveal people, situations or opportunities that are of most urgency. Will you be available and flexible enough to put God’s matters before your plans?

Perhaps this is a good place to start for most of us, but feel free to make a list of your own that reflects ways in which you’ll let God lead. We each have different areas where we’re seeking that freedom and peace and those areas of most resistance are often the most delicious parts of our lives… post surrender to the master life architect.

So what do you say?

-Hugette

ME LIKEY!